Sex, Gender, and Pronouns—Explained at Bedtime

We’ve all heard it before: “Isn’t sex and gender the same thing?” Or “Why do pronouns even matter?”

Let’s make it simple. Think of a bed. Because if there’s one thing we all understand, it’s bedtime.

1. Sex: What You Bring to Bed

Your sex is the biology you bring with you—your chromosomes, hormones, and anatomy. It’s what’s assigned to you at birth, but it doesn’t define who you are. It’s just one part of you.

2. Gender: Who You Go to Bed As

Your gender is who you are. Man. Woman. Non-binary. Genderqueer. It’s not your body—it’s your mind. It’s how you understand yourself when the lights are out and you’re just you.

3. Gender Expression: What You Wear to Bed

Your gender expression is your style. Maybe it’s a dinosaur tee. Maybe it’s silk pajamas. Maybe it’s nothing at all. It’s how you show yourself to the world—and it can change, just like your favourite PJs.

4. Sexuality: Who You Go to Bed With (or Without)

Your sexuality is about attraction. Who you’re drawn to—or if you’re drawn to anyone at all. It’s about connection, desire, or contentedly flying solo.

5. Pronouns: Who’s in the Bed

Pronouns are how people refer to you. They help us talk about the person in the bed—without guessing or assuming. If someone keeps calling your cat a dog, they’re just wrong. Same goes for misgendering someone. It’s not about opinion—it’s about respect.