Bisexuality Isn’t a Phase—It’s Real, Valid, and Here to Stay

Bisexuality isn’t a phase. It’s not a pit stop on the way to “figuring things out.” It’s not a convenient way to avoid commitment. And for the love of all things queer, it’s not “just being greedy.”

Bisexuality is real. It exists regardless of who someone is dating. A bisexual man dating a woman is still bisexual. A bisexual woman dating a man is still bisexual. A bisexual person dating another bisexual person? You guessed it—still bisexual. It’s not a performance, it’s not a stepping stone, and it’s definitely not up for debate.

Yet, for some reason, people love to invalidate bisexuality. Straight people assume it’s a phase. Gay people sometimes call it “gay-lite” or think someone just hasn’t “fully come out yet.” And then there’s the classic “Oh, you just haven’t found the right person yet.” As if attraction is some kind of scavenger hunt with a definitive answer at the end.

So let’s stop erasing bisexuality. Let’s stop acting like it’s some sort of temporary state or a secret code for something else. Bisexual people exist, they matter, and they shouldn’t have to constantly justify themselves. If someone tells you they’re bisexual, believe them. No footnotes, no asterisks, no “but what abouts.” Just believe them.